Bila saya cerita masalah saya kepada u all, mesti ada yang beritahu saya yang mereka mengalami nasib yang sama. so i am not alone. and some of them, even worse than me. but they are strong. Proud of you ! :)
Hope i can be like you too..
Saya paste sini some of the comments..just for sharing. harap tuan empunya diri don't mind..coz sharing is caring kannn
1) just nak share my previous experience..i used to love this guy and we kept it secret from everyone especially from my family until one day my dad figured out i was dating a guy behind him which he against about it so much. He used a spy to get me and yup, i fell into his trap. The whole family knew and was extremely mad at me..i left home and refused to contact my family until one day mom 'pujuk' me to return home. Until now, we never talk about it..and even worse, we broke up. I mean the guy and I broke up a week before our graduation day. Serious it was the worst nightmare ever in my life. I believe now, without parents blessings, the relationship will have no way to go..there is nothing u could do to keep it for long..i met a new guy now...3 weeks after we met for the 1st time, i told everything about the new guy to my parents. And lucky me..they approved. They even love him so much more than I thought.and now we are ready to prepare for our engagement day..insyaAllah which will be next year. both family approved and couldnt wait to see us together. I am so blessed to be with him now.. i have nothing to say to change ur mind arianna. and i have no rights to do so. just to share my experience..
~thanks dear..u have made me thinking about this all night
2):/ im in the same shoes with u.. :( fhm how u felt..i mean, i pon risau if my parents x bg blessing utk my love..mine is also 2years plus..still x bg tau my fmly sbb takot hilang dia, wlaupn hmpir sume fmly mmbers dia dh tau pasal ktorg :((all the best, arianna!! let us pray for the best..i believe that doa can change evrythg..insyaAllahoh btw, comel gile daisypath kt bwh tu "2 years, 2months, 2 weeks n 2days" :))
~Ohh..harap kita akan sama-sama be strong ye. kita mesti memahami apa perasaan kita sekarang kan
3) Arianna Dear,Your story same as mine. You see...with this kind of relationship is differ from other walaupun dorang cakap sama saja but they're not in our shoes. Bukan lah menidakkan pendapat orang lain, saya pun sama seperti kamu, memilih untuk merahsiakannya.But time will tell...after 11 years (still going on), hati dia terbuka untuk open up this relationship to his parents alhamdulillah saya diterima dengan baik...What I can say ... just believe in yourself, binalah kesabaran dalam diri, trust and support each other. Insya Allah, dipermudahkan niat kita.
~11 years! a very long time of hidden love. tapi betul lah kan kalau jodoh tak ke mana. i wish i can be strong as you
4) hi ariana..i setuju apa yg noa ckp..tak payah tunggu lama2..2 thn tu bukan masa yg singkat..u takkan tau apa akan terjadi, mana tau ur parent akan restu hubungan u.. kes kita hampir sama, im in love with black guy! worst rite? sbb byk sgt bad news bout these people..tp my bf sgt2 berbeza dr blacks lain.. never drink alcohol or smoke n working here.. yup kristian too.. tp hampir 2 thn ni.. sgt2 happy with this relationship rather thn b4..raya lepas my bf bersungguh2 nk jumpa my family.. i was so so so scared! all the way to my hometown i sakit kepala sbb takut!tapi..semua berjalan lancar.. my family sangat suka my bf.. even my maktok yg tua taktau english pon cuba nk ckp ngn dia.. masa tu.. i rasa 1 beban terlepas.. now nothing to b worried sbb dh dpt restu family n diorg tau ngn sapa i berkawan..so i wish u all the best.. sumtimes u need to bold to get sumthg u really want in life :)-cheersillaur silence reader
~ i've visited your blog. and i can see how he loves you. hope you will be together ke akhir hayat
Anyone has the same experience like us? Feel free if you want to share it too..
Thanks everyone who has left your comment. Appreciate that you care...
10 speak up:
i dont mind...hehe..
i have blog but i dont hve the courage to share my love story in public..so when i read others, i leave comments and i share my experience too..in blog...
saya pon de pengalaman yang sama.. cumanya family sebelah dia semua dah tau pasal saya dan dia...
dia lagi muda dari saya. semua kat dalam family saya tau saya dan dia rapat.. cuma mungkin dorang tak fikir kami ni rapat lebih dari seorang kakak dan adik..
tak tau nak bagitau macam mana kat mak sebab family dia nak datang merisik. macam takut giler jee... takut mak tak restui.. takut adik beradik semua tak setuju sebab dia pon study lagi.. huhu... macam-macam fkir...
Arianna..ramai yg ambil berat ttg kamu..
Bagi saya ...u'r parents takkan menghalang if dia tau perkara sebenar..
Kalau dah jodoh x kemana kan..
Wish u n kevin will be together forever ..:)
i'm u'r silent reader
love to read u'r story
we're in the same shoe..but i respect u lar coz tahan smpai now...u must be very strong to hold on to this relationship..my bf is a kadazan guy too....his parents sgt2 tak mau he sma2 ngan muslim girl...but my bf still wants to be with me n hoping that his parents would approve us sooner or later...so any advise? =)
Hai ariana.. Priya here.. Im a silent reader too actually.. :) Remembrd i commented during clara's operation the last time.. :D
My stories is kinda same as urs toO! Just that mine is in the same race.. Just that he's 12 years elder then ME! Wer im 18 n he's 30..N the worst part is.. Both our family dont accept our love.. 2 my family,he's too old.. while for his,Im too young.. Hweva wen trough an hell of 3 years.. :D Hoping for the best in future now.. Its just the matter that wether we are strong with our decision n our bond between the partner is strong,Den surely ntg can bring us apart! Will pray 4 u yer.. :D
salam arianna..
as a matured and experienced like me (ehem..)its good if you tell your parents as soon as posibble..saya sebagai mak pun tak berapa suka anak dok sorok benda ptg (hal masa depan)drpd saya. Apa yg u nak risaukan..of course as parents mereka mesti nak yg terbaik buat u dan nak u bahagia..kena berani kalau u nak sesuatu dlm hidup, bersungguh-sungguh supaya parents nampak u serius..saya ikuti kisah u dah lama..dan saya lihat kevin memang serius dan bert/jwb..hal parents dia (especially mak dia) yg tak berapa berkenan kat u tu, biarlah kevin selesaikan dulu..yg u patut buat dulu ialah making sure your parents give their blessing..do things a step at a time...jgn tangguh lagi..katakan ayah u tak berapa suka, then think of a way to make him suka..arianna..parents tak der nak marah anak bukan2..u kena yakinkan mereka pilihan u betul..selepas dapat your parents blessing (may be ambil masa lama)..then boleh la pujuk parents kevin pulak..lagi cepat u bertindak lagi bagus..fikirkan cara yg terbaik dan jgn sesekali sakitkan hati parents dgn buat perangai bukan2..u perlukan mereka bukan masa nak kawin saja but forever..insyaallah kalau niat kita baik, jalan kita akan dipermudahkan Allah..bye
See ??
InsyaALLAH. All will ends well :)
I pray for you sister ^^
the love of my life was my first, long lost crush back when i was seven, eight, nine and ten. after 12 years, we fall in love again, too bad we're doing long-distance relationship, already for 6 stinking month.. working very hard to make things work. i'm not planning to tell my parents until i finish my study which is 3.5 years from now, because i fear they will surely shut us down. and i can't handle that. so, i'm keeping this as a secret until im very sure my parents + family are okay with it. perhaps im too scared, but i really don't wanna know/feel how bad it'll hurt to be opposed by family. =(
hi ariana!
i have similar story too. me & my bf dah nk msuk 2 thn. but ktorg dh rapat before tu lagi. and up until now, i didnt tell my parent yet. just my sisters know about him. and i always tulis blog pasal dia. i meet his family. dh mcm rapat dgn family dia. but dgn family i, diorg just tau dia as one of my classmate je. now, my sister wedding is coming. and i plan to tell my family about him soon. at least before we graduated. but kdg2 takut jugak. takut kalo bgtau and then something happen between us. huhu.
but, remember, blessing from family is important. jom sama sama bgtau family! hehe.
btw, i'm ur super silent reader. tak prnh komen pun b4 this but tiba2 rsa nk komen. hehe.
Tergerak hati nak comment pulak. I know this entry is wayyy overdue haha.
I've known my partner for more than 9 years and it took me 7 years to build up the guts to tell my family about him.
I mean how would you tell your parents that you fell in love with a foreign man whom you've never met apart from "seeing" him on your computer screen?
Though I dah kenal hati budi dia after 7 years of "being together", but do you really think that's gonna cut it for my family?
Let alone him being foreign; different culture, different religion and different upbringing. Lagi lah kecut perut nak bagitau.
Mula mula, I didn't want to tell them about him, I mean I was actually thinking of just moving to America and secretly marrying him.
But, age and maturity (and senses!) kinda took over and I realized no matter how "easy" the idea seems to be, it is NEVER easy in the long run.
To cut the story short, he came over to Malaysia, met and bonded with my family.
It was surprising how quickly my family grew fond of him! And it was surprising as well on how GLAD AND HAPPY I am knowing that I have their blessings.
What I'm trying to say is, your family loves you, and wants you to be happy, so as long as you respect them (in this case, by informing them that you're marrying him) you'll definitely get their approval. And trust me when I said you'd really appreciate it.
-Alia
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